With the first day of school here and so many things changing… regular routines again, Fall approaching, …. I’m compelled to reconsider the morning. Dear, sweet mornings. This is where it all begins. This is the map of the rest of your day.
With Summer, especially as of late, I am drawn to slow quiet mornings. Coffee on the porch. A stroll around the gardens. Leading in to those lazy days of Summer. Well, why wouldn’t I be. Given this being my second to last Summer vacation with both of my babes at home. Yep. A freshman and a junior. Time is nearly up. I must make the very best of it before it is no more. I don’t mean they will suddenly disappear, but it sure won’t be the same. So I have certainly attempted to balance those early morning training clients, writing sessions, showings and slew of emails and phone calls with, well, slow lazy days with my babes.
Hmmph. How lucky is she? Right? Don’t let me fool you. It wasn’t as easy as it sounds. The guilt and anxiety of not performing my regularly full schedule was pure torture. Sort of. As the days grew on it certainly got easier. Almost too easy. But in those first weeks, I battled fret, apprehension, concern… abandonment. And I was up and out of the house by 5:30 every morning. I just had the privilege of returning home a short time later after those early morning training sessions. And so the lazy mornings recommenced, for a time.
There are so many things I remember in the morning. How fast life passes us by. How unrelenting. The speed at which a child grows. The ease at which we become complacent over even the most important things. This Summer has taught me so very much. To have started with such high hopes, such a long list of will do’s. So many of which turned to simple I-had-hopes-of. It’s quite easy for even the most diligent to find themselves taking days and events for granted.
But back to the matter at hand. Mornings. This my friends is the beginning. The answer and the end. When you start your day with power, with perspective, with drive, you can have it all. Dramatic? I tend to be. But really. If you change your view on the morning you can change your life. You see, how you start your day is how it will play out. Ever have one of those strangely rare mornings where you are up early, don’t turn the television on, exercise, move so productively through your day that everything played out even better than you could expect? That’s what I’m talking about.
I have learned over the years, by trial and error, that when I start my day with meditation, quiet reflection, a good workout, a good breakfast and a great, thankful outlook I am BETTER! I am more focused. I am stronger. I have more energy. I am a better me. Take some time each morning just for you. Even if you must set the alarm 10 minutes earlier. Go somewhere quiet. Do some gentle stretching and give thanks for all you have. Consider where you want to be, what you want to do and how you want your day, your life to look. Try taking a walk or running on that treadmill-slash-clothes hanger. Just leave the ipod on the table. You want to be alone with yourself, your thoughts. Find stillness. Just try it for 3 days. At the end of those 3 days spend some time considering how those days played out. Did you get more done? Were you happier? More focused? Did you feel more grateful?
My friends and clients have never reported back that this was terrible. They hated it. It can be difficult to begin for sure. The bed is warmest and most cozy just before you need to leave it. The pillow fluffed just right. But this is for you. The person, the life you can achieve is far more comfortable than all the down in the world. I often hear meditation is impossible. Sitting still and quiet- boring, minds race, anxiety created from the mere act of trying. I will touch more on meditation in my next post- Finding Zen… or Something Closer to Sanity. For now, find something just for you with no noise.
Consider recruiting your friends to join. You can hold each other accountable. Encourage each other. I don’t mean 5am phone calls, but if a text is necessary then go for it. Some things just work better when you have another playing the same game. Someone to talk to about it. But in the end it is all about you. It is about creating a better you. When we get to know ourselves better, treat ourselves better we become better people. Better mothers, fathers, better friends, better children. We tend to let things roll off us, decide not to fight. We take things in stride, feel peaceful. And ultimately we live better. All that negative energy, all the clutter, all of the things blocking our minds and bodies start to disappear. We make way for good things, positive energy. Our lives change. We live what we create. Create a peaceful, positive you!
It’s a great time to start! Add it to your new back to school – back to reality schedule. And let me know how it goes. Do you already have a routine like this? I would love to hear about it. Inspire us!